Authentic Relating
Connection is often our deepest longing and simultaneously our greatest fear
Experience being your whole self while being in connection
Does this sound familiar?
If you can relate, then there are others who can too
What if learning some tools could help you
feel safe, alive and free in your relationships?
“The single biggest problem in communication is the illusion that it has taken place” - George Bernard Shaw
I imagine you might have internalised stories that have encouraged you to be cautious about revealing your experience. These might have been something along the lines of:
💫 The fear of being ‘too much’: The belief that having needs makes you a burden on others
💫 Fear of becoming ‘unloveable’: The belief that what other people might think of you determines your value
💫 Fear of ‘getting it wrong’: The belief that what and how you share things will inevitably backfire into unmanageable conflict
But what if I told you that meaningful relationships flourish when you learn to express your needs, name your assumptions, and reveal your experience? When we cultivate a culture of care and respond from a place of love, intimacy inevitably surfaces.
Part of learning to ‘Authentically Relate’ (more info below), is embodying practical and simple tools to support you in revealing your authentic experience and being received as you do so. While also building your capacity to offer the same to others.
If you’re on this page, I trust it’s because you are ready to invite more intimacy into your life and bring awareness to what prevents you from it. I’m here to support you in learning how to feel safer and more alive in connection with another.
Elizabeth Gilbert
“I used to think the world is not a safe place for my truth and now I realise you make the world a safe place for you
by telling the truth"
What is Authentic Relating?
Ever felt like something you were saying, didn’t quite convey the level or depth of what you were experiencing? Leading to conversations about ‘things’ that weren’t really about the actual thing you wanted or needed to express?
When you Authentically Relate, you learn to slow things down and treat everything as a practice. You aren’t attempting to get ‘something right’, but rather build a habit of noticing what’s alive in your body, in the present moment, to inform what you might share. What makes AR different from day-to-day conversation is you are:
Authentic: Your perception of reality is real and it is valid, you allow others to see, hear, and know your inner world
Relating: You are impacted by the relationships you are a part of with different parts of you coming online, depending on who you are with. Recognising that they too experience a reality of their own that is real and valid
Authentic relating offers an integrated set of skills and tools that are potent, versatile, and easy to learn and apply in everyday life, with everyone you encounter. It combines cutting-edge research into the science of relationships with the timeless tenets of ancient wisdom and somatic principles to produce a relational practice that is non-dogmatic, eminently practical, and immediately accessible by anyone.
Inspired by the circling movement in Boulder in the 90’s, this practice has since transformed relationships regardless of context by providing simple and easy sentence stems, relational plays, body tracking methods, and language to use. These tools support leaning into the discomfort, whereby you and the person you are communicating with can feel safe, held, and accepted in each others presence.
Can learning these tools help my team or my business?
“On average 50% of employees remain quiet and don’t speak up when things feel off or are going wrong.” Gallup, 2019
The reason? People fear being labeled negatively and don’t want to risk damaging valuable relationships or simply fear losing their jobs if they raise these concerns. The impact of self-censorship in your company could lead to serious issues not being raised potentially leading to to irreparable damage being caused, due to a lack of awareness. So how do you create the conditions to support a braver and psychologically safe environment?
💫 Compassionate feedback: Learn tools and frameworks to receive and give clear, actionable, and constructive feedback
💫 Clear ways of working and responsibilities: Find a shared language to define guard rails for how to and how not to work together
💫 Empowered participation to enhance productivity & cooperation: Create a psychologically safe context, that allows for your employees’ needs and ideas to surface and be heard
When people don’t feel heard, and aren’t able to shape or contribute to their workplace environments, this naturally leads to being disengaged. With only 32% of today’s employees are actively engaged in the work they do (Gallup 2020). It’s becoming increasingly imperative for us to build braver cultures.
If you’re reading this, I trust it’s because you are a business owner who wishes to do things differently. I’m here to support you as a business owner in creating optimal conditions for a psychologically safe, brave and honest culture.
Authentic
Relating
Session
1-on-1 Session
Authentic relating is a relational communications practice. You will learn a language that supports you and others to feel deeply seen, heard and accepted for who they are. This tool is especially useful when confronted with discomfort or conflict in relationship, irrespective of what type.
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1 - 1.5 hours
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A once off session for £60
SE &
Authentic
Relating
Sessions
Somatic Experiencing® &
Authentic Relating
Wanting to deepen your sense of self while relating with another? Combining Somatic Experiencing® (inner awareness) with Authentic Relating (tools to convey your inner reality) is a powerful combination of self-empowerment. Build the confidence to feel, speak and honour your boundaries, needs, and desires while in relationship with another.
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Sessions will occur separately.
Somatic Experiencing® (1 hour), Authentic Relating (1-1.5 hours) -
The combination of packages varies. Generally buying packages works out better than individual sessions. Check bookings for up-to-date prices.
Monthly
Authentic Leadership
Circle
Bi-Monthly Authentic
Leadership Circles
Authentic Leadership Circle is an invitation to practice authentic relating and somatic experiencing skills and tools you can use in your day-to-day relationships with others who just ‘get it’. It’s for those embarking on a lifestyle revolution in connection. Together we’ll tackle different themes and embody these learnings in community.
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1.5 hours
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£40 a month
Book a
workshop
for your
team
Bring Authentic Relating
to your Workplace
Wanting to deepen your sense of self while relating with another? Combining Somatic Experiencing® (inner awareness) with Authentic Relating (tools to convey your inner reality) is a powerful combination of self-empowerment. Build the confidence to feel, speak and honour your boundaries, needs, and desires while in relationship with another.
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Workshop lengths vary from 3 hours to 6 hours.
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Pricing is dependent on the content and length of the workshop. Make an enquiry to learn more.